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In today’s age, for families with children, their education expenditures account for a large part of the overall family expenditure, and even make people feel more and more “heavy”, but indispensable, this has become a paradox. The reason is that the fierce competition caused by the rapid development of society, the psychology of parents’ comparison, and the idea of ​​”seeking a child into a dragon and becoming a woman” are worthy of attention. Then, rational treatment has become the only way for us to crack this “paradox.”

With the development of the times, education has gradually become one of the most concerned sectors. Education spending also accounts for the bulk of household spending. For families with children, this is a common thing – indeed, education is a point that every parent in China values. However, heavy education spending is certainly not advisable because it reflects many problems in social development. Then, since it is a problem in development, it cannot be treated succinctly. The correct way is to return to normal and return to rationality.

Why do heavy education expenditures generate heavy education expenditures? The reasons can be roughly divided into three aspects: the fierce competitive pressure caused by the rapid development of society, the psychology of parents’ comparison, and the common catalysis of the idea of ​​”seeking a child into a dragon and becoming a woman”.

First, the rapid development of society has caused fierce competitive pressures to flourish. Over the past 40 years of reform and opening up, with the establishment of the socialist market economic system, the end of the unit society, the transfer of political power to civil rights, the spiritual outlook of Chinese families has changed from passive to active, their democratic consciousness, market awareness, and equality. Consciousness, competition awareness, fairness awareness, efficiency awareness, and efficiency awareness all come together.

In the same way, in the field of education, this change is also born from time to time. There is an “Engel coefficient” in economics. As income increases and the focus of consumption shifts from food to other aspects such as education, the Engel coefficient will become smaller. This change, in a sense, directly reflects changes in the quality of life. Then, accelerating economic development, increasing the income level of the people, and promoting the transfer of consumption to the education field are the most important means to reduce the Engel coefficient, and lowering the Engel coefficient is of great significance for the reasonable expenditure of education.

However, education spending should be moderate. The so-called moderation is to do what we can, or to say that we cannot affect the stability and sustainability of a family because of education expenditure, that is, expenditure cannot cause a burden and generate negative energy. Under the conditions of market economy, it is inevitable that there will be a class of parents: they know the importance of education to children, and therefore invest heavily in education and follow the social stream. It can be said that this is the “big” cause of heavy education expenditure: rapid social development, more and more competition, and more and more “heavy” education expenditure.

Second, parents are more concerned about the psychological situation. With the emergence of education marketization, parents’ psychology is also becoming more and more complicated. Its performance is reflected in both the material and spiritual levels. However, the spiritual level is particularly obvious. It has already been deeply imprinted in the field of education and is deconstructing the original educational concept. We admit that the comparison is common to everyone, and the heavy education expenditure is only a manifestation of parents’ comparison.

The reason is that the quality of education in China is uneven, and parents are expecting too much from their children. Therefore, they have followed the example of those who have educated their branches and paid more time, energy and money for their children. The excessive and heavy education expenditure is a kind of morbid manifestation of comparison psychology, which is not conducive to the development of modern education. On the other hand, this is a retrogression in the reverse direction. The superposition of quantities does not represent an improvement in quality, especially in the current rapid development of education, which means more blindly following the trend.

The third is that the traditional idea of ​​”seeking a child into a dragon and looking into a woman into a phoenix” is at work. In ancient China, “everything is the best, only high reading.” Education is the only way to change one’s status. In fact, even in modern times, education is still an important way to jump. “Wangzi Chenglong looks like a woman into a phoenix” affects the development of education all the time – this is another important reason for the heavy education expenditure phenomenon.

In modern society, there are three kinds of educational mentality in parents, that is, “too high” and “too fast”. “Too high,” exaggerating the child’s ability to choose a higher level of education for him, regardless of the degree of absorption; “too fast” “a big fat man”, thinking that education should be accelerated As soon as possible, the children will be “trained into talents.” “Wangzi does not look upon himself”, “Wangzi Chenglong looks like a woman into a phoenix” but does not lead by example, naturally can not play a leading role. In all three cases, the traditional ideas of “Wang Zi Cheng Long Wang Nuo Cheng Feng” are at work, which eventually led to the birth of heavy education expenditure.

Since the heavy education expenditure is a paradox, it needs us to rationally crack it. On the one hand, this is a side test that education gradually occupies an important position in the development of national soft power. Education rational consumption can play a certain positive role; on the other hand, this is also a drawback often caused in the rapid development of educational practice. Seeing the hidden logical paradox behind the phenomenon will never be able to get out of the predicament of heavy education spending. Therefore, rational cracking is very important.

With the intensification of social competition, it is true that the expenditure of education is necessary, but irrationality will go to extremes and even to the opposite. Take early education, it is the beginning of education spending – it has been said that: talking about basic education, we must start from the roots, roots can only be leafy. The roots must be tied in the soil suitable for their growth to extend in depth to make the roots develop and prop up for a day. The “root” here is like the early education of the child before entering school.

A person’s early education determines the quality and value of his life, and determines his character’s behavior and the infinite breadth of his life. In the same way, the basic education of a country determines the strength of the economy and the rise and fall of the nation. In today’s society, the trend of education development is to determine the heavy trend of education expenditure from the beginning of early education. This kind of heavy weight, on the positive side, is the emphasis of individuals and the state on education. Education is an important way to continuously improve the quality of a new generation of young people.

From this perspective, the necessary education expenditure is understandable. To put it another way, proper education expenditure is completely feasible – the focus is “heavy”. If the heavy education expenditure is not “the right medicine”, it is basically “the bamboo basket is a little empty” and it can play a very small role. There are even negative effects. From this point of view, education should pay more attention to “degree”. Education expenditure should focus on whether it meets the child’s own needs, rather than blindly and blindly paying for peace of mind.

Returning to rationality, we can easily find that heavy education expenditures are irrational, which makes it difficult for some families to bear the burden and even lead to poverty due to “teaching.” After pondering, we believe that the correct way is to get out of this misunderstanding and return more free time and hobbies. What we should do is to find a set of educational programs that are suitable for the development of children so as to avoid heavy educational expenses. From the perspective of educators, it is necessary to clarify the true meaning and essence of education, that is, education must be established for standing, establishing, and establishing a book.

First of all, we must correctly understand the meaning of education. The educator Tao Xingzhi once said: “Education is a life education based on life and life, and people who have the ability to move, think and creativity.” Education is not a task, nor is it a kind of heart. “, but the “catalyst” that is realistically implemented, and used to catalyze the talent hidden in a person’s blood. However, the heavy education expenditure is, in the final analysis, a mere bomb, blinding the real “education” in exchange for a meaningless “heart”.

Second, we must correctly understand the role of education. China’s current policy is more inclined to “development education”, but parents can not just lose their direction in this regard. Adapting to education is extremely important when education is strongly encouraged and vigorously developed, but this does not mean that heavy education expenditures can be praised. Therefore, whether it is parents or educators, we need to focus on the true balance of education: the balance between the state and the individual, the balance between parents and children, the balance between school education and family education, and so on.

In today’s era, we must attach great importance to the problem of heavy education expenditure. From the perspective of the family, this is related to the growth of the child; from the perspective of the whole society, this is related to the future of “education”. Heavy education expenditure is a phenomenon that must occur in the rapid development of society. Even if this phenomenon is expressed in a derogatory color, it is also the color of the era, which has become a reflection of people’s re-emphasis on education. Of course, education expenditure has become “heavy”, and it should be highly valued by government departments at all levels. To this end, serious research has become the current choice we cannot avoid. “Heavy education spending” should not always be a “heavy topic”. The 25-year-old husband lost contact on Saturday.

Ms. Yang’s alarm, visit, and monitoring, she found her husband’s car. But people still don’t know where to trace. In the video, her husband stopped the car, slid in a cap and rode a bicycle, and his favorite radio was taken away. Why do pianist teachers with a monthly salary of more than 20,000 yuan leave? Ms. Yang has found a lot of reasons. She guesses that the biggest possibility is that a self-respecting, sensitive husband may not want to live with the old man.

“Today morning, the child ran to the room and asked Dad.” Ms. Yang was a little choked; she also wanted to say to her husband: You are coming back. No matter what happens, solve it together; come back, be a good father and a good husband who have the responsibility and responsibility, and give your son a good example. Saturday, June 29. Ms. Yang said that she had asked her husband’s arrangements the day before. Mr. Wang is a pianist. “He usually has classes on weekends. He said that it is very late to go to class on Saturday.” The next day at around 8 am, the husband left the house.

Two hours later, the two exchanged on WeChat, “said a case of his teaching plan.” Ms. Yang told reporters that her husband had made a piano teaching lesson and was applying for copyright. However, the application for copyright has not yet been completed, so when she was asked to buy the lesson the previous day, she advised her husband to wait. The reporter noticed that on WeChat, Ms. Yang took the initiative to say “you are the best”.

After another half an hour, the husband on WeChat said that “the class is over” and “go to go home to rest.” At that time, Ms. Yang and her children and parents had not gone out. She asked her husband if she would go out to play together. Mr. Wang said “no” and said that he would “schedule work at home”. The communication on WeChat has not been broken. At 3:30 in the afternoon, the husband said that he had woke up in the afternoon. Ms. Yang suggested that she could watch the movie at night, but Mr. Wang did not reply.

Until 4:48 pm, Mr. Wang proposed to let Ms. Yang transfer 200 yuan. “I thought he was going to cheer, I didn’t ask.” In the chat, Ms. Yang mentioned the expenses of the family this month. Seeing that her husband did not respond, she asked again, “I will not be angry again.” The husband denied and said that he was in class. It now appears that this is the husband’s last response to Ms. Yang on WeChat.

At 7 o’clock in the evening, Ms. Yang asked her husband’s dinner and did not respond. “I thought he was in class.” After ten o’clock, there was still no news on WeChat. “The latest class will have to go to class at this time.” The display is turned off. Ms. Yang feels that something is wrong. Her husband usually shuts down.

At home, Ms. Yang also found that her husband’s towel, a pair of slippers, and a razor and radio were not there. “He likes to listen to the radio and said it is very cured.” I asked a few friends whose husbands were few, and learned that he had mentioned I wanted to go to Pengzhou Xiaoyudong to play with water. “I guess he may have been under pressure recently, and he went there.”

The next day, the husband still can’t contact. Ms. Yang mentioned that her husband had previously lost an initiative. She had to keep in touch with several of his friends. On July 1, Ms. Yang went to the Honghe Police Station in Longquanyi District, where the police station where she lived. She was told that at about 6 pm on June 29, her husband’s car was suspected to have appeared at the intersection of Huadu Road and Huanan Road. After further searching, they confirmed that the car was the Ford that her husband usually opened.

Ms. Yang told the reporter that the car appeared for the first time at 6:03 in the evening and reappeared at 44 minutes. Ms. Yang also speculated that her husband might have gone to class for the students. “His students are also climbing into the steel and the bull market.” After that, it is difficult to track the vehicle.

The husband invited a teaching assistant to the piano class. “The assistant said that my husband had arranged for him to work on Monday.” From the assistant, Ms. Yang also contacted the parents of many students, one of whom told her that June 29 At 6 o’clock in the afternoon, Mr. Wang was going to class in Yanlord Binhe Bay. “But when the time did not appear, the parents called him to shut down.”

“There was no clue to find a lot of places.” On Wednesday morning, according to the advice of the Honghe police station, she went to the police station with her son, who was more than one year old, and her husband’s father, and collected information. On the other hand, they also tried to contact the used car platform. After 5 pm, they were told that the GPS positioning display on the husband’s car was near Shuanggui Road. They rushed over and found nothing for a few hours.

I didn’t agree with my husband’s contract to sell the lesson plan on Friday, is it related to this matter? However, in the view of Ms. Yang, copyright has not been applied for, and rushing to sign a contract does have risks. “It can be a few days.” Is it the pressure of household expenditure? Ms. Yang said that her husband is 25 years old and his income is not low. “The monthly income is more than 20,000.” Although the family bought a Mercedes-Benz last month, “he proposed to buy it,” according to the current income of the two, Coupled with the sale of the lesson plans, the planned purchase of the house is also very fast.

Thinking about it, Ms. Yang thought of a paragraph her husband said a few days ago. On June 25th, they moved from the rented house to Ms. Yang’s parents’ home. Two days later, the husband and Ms. Yang said: “If the case plan becomes, earned money, let’s go rent a good house and improve. Under the conditions.” Ms. Yang said that her husband’s childhood was rather rough. She could feel her husband’s strong self-esteem and sensitivity. “For example, if you buy a house, his family or my parents have the ability to fund it, but he does not want to. “Because of this, before I moved to my parents’ home, “My parents and I both asked him in advance, and repeatedly confirmed that he also agreed.”

Have you considered taking your husband to see a psychiatrist? Ms. Yang said that because she used to study medicine, in her opinion, her husband had not been to the extent of seeing a doctor. At 12:20 on the 4th, according to the positioning screenshot provided by the used car platform, the Ford was found in Daejeon Lane. Ms. Yang and her husband’s father rushed there. “From the 1st, a few tickets were posted.” The positioning also showed that the car was still there for 4 days, 16 hours and 59 minutes. Going back, the car should be parked around 7:20 on June 29th.

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